Great Expectations.

Hey princess, you are captivating and your heart is worth celebrating. I am enthralled by your beauty. --Love, your Heavenly Father.

Now if the King of Kings is sending that message to us every morning, why on earth are we so wrapped up in hearing it via text message from that boy who just isn't quite ready to commit? It's ludicrous. I am certainly not a feminist. And I'm not bashing men...I love men. I know some wonderful ones, and I am so thankful for the unique gifts that they offer. I also believe the desire for earthly intimacy is God-given, and the marriage relationship between man and woman is the most beautiful earthly picture of God's love for His bride.

But. We have got to stop putting the very value of our souls into the hands of creatures who can't even be trusted to put the toilet lid down. I mean, really? This is embarrassing that it takes a trail of broken hearts before most of us figure this out. Women, let's wake up. If he's having a hard time making up his mind... if he is lying, cheating, or emotionally unavailable... Walk.away. Stop.settling. Stop trying to fix or pull along someone while they kick and scream. Do you really want to marry someone who you had to convince or trick? Here's an idea-- expect a man to pursue you, lead you, and protect you with the gentleness and strength of the God he serves. And if he doesn't, stop making excuses for him, break the binding chains of doubt and move along. Here's some hilarious tips from the man and woman co-authors of He's Just Not That Into You. I genuinely hope you can't relate to any of these.

"A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the woman he loves. If he's not calling you to tell you he loves you and wants you back, it should only be because he's showing up at your new residence to do it in person ... if he's not doing any of that, he may love you, he may miss you, but ultimately he's just not that into you. Stop taking his calls and let him know what it's like to live without you."

"Don't be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You're deeply missable. However, he's still the same person who just broke up with you. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he's choosing, every day, not to be with you."

"For the record, this guy doesn't 'like you so much that he can't stop being around you.' Because here's what guys don't do if they can't live without you: they don't break up with you. This guy is seriously not into you, it's crazy. The only way you're going to figure out how into you you are ... is how fast you get rid of him."

"It's very tempting when you really want to be with someone to settle for much, much less -- even a vague pathetic facsimile of less -- than you would have ever imagined. Remember always what you set out to get and please don't settle for less. These guys exist because there are a lot of women out there who allow them to."

"Deciding to get back together with someone is a complicated and difficult decision. Just remember that the person you are getting back together with is the same person who, not long before, looked you in your beautiful face, took full stock of you and all your qualities, and told you that he was no longer in need of your company."

"There's a guy out there who's going to be really happy that you didn't get back together with your ex-boyfriend."

"No matter how powerful and real your feelings may be for someone, if that person cannot fully and honestly return them and therefore actively love you back, these feelings mean nothing."

"Being lonely ... being alone ... for many people ... sucks. I get it, I get it, I get it. But still I have to say that yes, my belief is that being with somebody who makes you feel like garbage, or doesn't honor the person you are, is worse."

I hope you have great expectations. Because you are Loved, you are Forgiven, and you are a Masterpiece. Over and out.